Family breakdown is the factor driving all other problems in society. But why has rapid family breakdown and gender confusion occurred, especially in the last 15 years? Richard dives deeper into this critical issue.
At the time of Creation, God created man and woman with the sexual organs as their emblem. As result, that which controls the sexual organs is connected to all structural elements of the human body. For this reason, a man and woman unite as one in the act of making love and give birth to a child. What would happen during childbirth? Whom would the baby take after? The baby becomes attached to the mother’s nervous system so its own develops in a similar way. Can branches grow if there are no roots? The logic in this cannot be denied.
When a man and a woman become excited during love-making, it is a principle that the mind and body unite into one. That is logical. Then through which organ can love, life and lineage can be connected continually through the generations? It is the sexual organs. What comes first, love or life? In this question lies the problem. Similar to the problems of the world today, which are caused by materialistic philosophy, and the questioning of whether it is the mind or the body that comes first, we also need to ask ourselves: What is more precious, love or life? This is the problem. What comes first? The order of importance must be determined. The answer is that love comes first.
When God first established the ideal of creation, He did not do so centering upon Himself. Instead, it was centered upon love, and that is why He created the world of reciprocal relationships. This is logically correct. (193-145, 1989.10.3)Cheon Seong Gyeong 1514 Rev. Sun Myung Moon
The most important problem facing society today is family breakdown. This is directly related to the misuse of love and sex. Let’s look at some of the statistics for how the family is breaking down.
According to the Census Bureau, since 1968 the number of children living with two parents has declined from 85 % to 70%, but the definition of a family was changed in 2007 to be two parents living together, whether they are married or not, which is not accurate.
Furthermore, in families were two unmarried parents are living together, we see that those with young children ages one to five comprise 50 percent of that category. But those with children 12 to 17 comprise only 18 percent. Why? These families are unstable and tend to break up. For married parents, as you would expect, the number of children living with both parents is steady across age groups.
The Pew Research Center study shows that in 1960, children lived with two parents in their first marriage 76% of the time, but only 46% of the time in 2014. Children living with remarried parents held steady over the years at about 15 percent. In summary,
90 percent of children lived with married parents in 1960, vs. 61 percent in 2014, a
29 percent drop. Seven percent of couples were cohabiting in 2014. Single parents increased from 9 percent to 26 percent. In 2014, one in 20 children did not live with either parent.
You are twice as likely to get divorced if you have children before marriage.
What should be done about family breakdown?
From a God-centered viewpoint; you cannot enter heaven without a family.
You need not just marriage but Blessed marriage.
You need children to enter heaven. You need all the aspects of love, parental, brother-sister, conjugal and filial. You cannot just enter heaven as a happy couple, only.
All the problems of society are linked to the decline of the family. If children are not living with their married parents, all kinds of problems occur. Children living with a mother and her boyfriend are much more likely to be sexually abused. Even in high crime inner-city neighborhoods, those living with their married parents are much less likely to be involved in crime or delinquency.
What about our economy. There is a worker shortage. Why? One reason is that fertility is declining. In the 60’s and 70’s, 40 percent of women had four children. Now it is reversed. Forty percent of women only have two children.
What about the uncivility of society. Many are mad or “pissed-off”. Why? A lot of it has to do with anger over not having a father, for both men and women. This may not be acknowledged, but it is there, none the less.
What can be done about the problem of family breakdown?
First, regardless of whether you grew up with both parents or not, and whether you practiced sexual abstinence before marriage or not, you can decide for your future or current children that you would like to make a stable environment for them.
What will you tell your future or current children? Would you not like them to wait until marriage for sexual activity? We need to break the generational cycle of out of wedlock birth. Youth are happy to learn the message of pre-marital abstinence. It is a no-brainer to teach this to our youth, especially in local schools. See urbanlifetraining.org. We have trainings quarterly.
Secondly, practice and teach Blessed marriage, the marriage Blessing instituted by Rev. Sun Myung Moon and his wife, as True Parents. We can change our lineage from the devil (John 8:44) to God’s lineage. We can change our marriage from being outside the Garden of Eden to being in the state before the Fall of Man. See Blessed Marriage here.
Fourth, you need to share this good news with others. Rev. Moon taught us the ministry of Home Church. You minister to 360 homes in your neighborhood. It is not just evangelizing, asking them if they have accepted Jesus or True Parents, Rev. and Mrs. Moon. It is serving your neighbors in practical ways. Know your neighbors, love your neighbors and help your neighbors.
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Have the Unification Church and Christian Churches become corrupt? What is the role of Rev. Sun Myung Moon as the True Parent? Why is it important to give a faithful report?
I was fortunate to work in a key project that Rev. Sun Myung Moon founded in 1987 to save America from its moral and spiritual and physical decline. In his wisdom, Rev. Moon founded a business with the salvation of America at its heart. The logo embodies the heart behind this ministry
It was originally named the Happy Mind Home Shopping Club. However, due to complaints from the Home Shopping Network, the name was changed to the Happy Mind Shop at Home Service.
The service was launched in September, 1987 from a warehouse on V St. NE in Washington, DC. Initially there were about 1000 non perishable products stocked that could be delivered to customers’ homes. Later, this was expanded to a selection of about 6000 products, including perishable items. At that time, there was only one other home delivery service in Metro Washington DC, Telegrocer (no longer in business). As usual, Rev. Moon was way ahead of his time.
I became one of the first delivery agents for the company. My delivery area was in the Brookland area and vicinity of Washington, DC. The company did direct mail advertising, and I began delivering to a few customers. My wife Stacey and I promoted the service door to door in our neighborhood, too.
According to Rev. Moon, who visited the business location on June 30 1990 (I’m not 100% sure of the year), the Happy Mind Shop at Home Service has three main purposes:
- To facilitate the accomplishment of Home Church (more about this later).
- To facilitate the promotion of the Washington Times Newspaper.
- To allow those doing the business to make money.
In 1989 I moved to the Capitol Hill area of Washington DC. Renee Corley was the Happy Mind delivery agent in that area at the time. She had just moved out of the area, so I took over her area, which we served continuously until May, 2016.
According to Larry Moffit, at a meeting at the Washington Times building, Rev. Moon stated when asked what his most important legacy in the United States would be, he answered, “The Happy Mind Shop at Home Service”. I think that this tells us a lot about the heart of Rev. Moon. He was and still is a man on a mission to save all of the people in the United States, and the world. But, practically speaking, how? How will every home in the United States be reached?
We can understand something of Rev. Moon’s heart when we look at this excerpt from a speech given on January 8th, 1976 at Jacob House in Tarrytown, NY:
In this religion each person is so important as to correspond to thousands of members. You and all under you will collapse. Know how many people are in the church. Find out how many of the world’s population must be taken care of by each of you. You are responsible for the eternal life of so many people.
On January 1st, 1979, Rev. Moon launched “Home Church”. Home church is a practical ministry to serve and educate families in a 360 home area or multiple thereof, such as 720 homes, 1080 homes, or a 3.6 mile radius area. Going back to Rev. Moon’s words above, if there are 1000 people who understand this imperative, and 327 million people and the average household size is 3.6 people, then each person would be responsible for about 91,000 homes.
In September 2004 Rev. Moon conducted his last Hoon Dok Hae before leaving America for an extended time. The meeting was held at the Sheraton National Hotel in Arlington, Virginia. At that time, he instructed that the section on Home Church and Tong Ban Breakthrough be read (Cheon Seong Gyeong pp. 2021 to 2078). So these were the instruction that he left America with as he returned to Korea for an extended period. As such, we should study and pay close attention to these words.
But how, practically, could you take care of a specific geographic area with thousands of homes.
In the Cheon Seong Gyeong on p. 2056 Rev. Moon explains
I created a company named, Happy Mind, which in Korean is Haeng bok eui
Ma-eum. It is a company I have developed and invested in continually for sev-
en years. What does this company do? It is for the organization of the Home
Church. This organization should be connected to the tong ban breakthrough
activities and should try to win over the families. Once you win them over,
then everything will be possible. There is no better foundation that exists for
the mobilization of the masses. (213-299,1991.1.21)
Enter the Urban Grocery Delivery System. Unfortunately, the Happy Mind Home Shopping Service closed in June, 1994. Fortunately, Urban Grocery took the foundation started with the Happy Mind Shop at Home Service and beginning on July 5th, 1994, developed it into what is now the Urban Grocery Delivery System.
Watch this video to see why every community servant should be utilizing the Urban Grocery Delivery System: