Richard Urban, the founder of VisonRoot and Urban Life Training, explains how we can return our communities, society and nation to health. He features news about the conviction of former Jefferson County, WV health teacher Edward Belmonte, who has been convicted of 13 felonies for having sex with a student. The same teacher responded to Jefferson County Board of Education Testimony by Richard Urban, saying that abstinence education does not work. That testimony is included in the show. Three months later, Belmonte was having sex with a student.
There is only one way to break the generational cycle of out of wedlock birth.
We must teach youth the benefits of sexual abstinence before marriage.
This will help them to achieve success and happiness.
Jamal Johnson taught abstinence-centered sex education in public schools for eleven years.
Here he makes a compelling presentation on how having sex outside of marriage leads to higher rates of divorce. In turn, higher rates of divorce lead to more single parents. More single parents mean more poverty and worse outcomes for children.
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How can we work together to Strengthen Families and Stop Family Breakdown?
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Richard Urban, co-founder VisionRoot, Urban Life Training and Urban Grocery
At the time of Creation, God created man and woman with the sexual organs as their emblem. As result, that which controls the sexual organs is connected to all structural elements of the human body. For this reason, a man and woman unite as one in the act of making love and give birth to a child. What would happen during childbirth? Whom would the baby take after? The baby becomes attached to the mother’s nervous system so its own develops in a similar way. Can branches grow if there are no roots? The logic in this cannot be denied.
When a man and a woman become excited during love-making, it is a principle that the mind and body unite into one. That is logical. Then through which organ can love, life and lineage can be connected continually through the generations? It is the sexual organs. What comes first, love or life? In this question lies the problem. Similar to the problems of the world today, which are caused by materialistic philosophy, and the questioning of whether it is the mind or the body that comes first, we also need to ask ourselves: What is more precious, love or life? This is the problem. What comes first? The order of importance must be determined. The answer is that love comes first.
When God first established the ideal of creation, He did not do so centering upon Himself. Instead, it was centered upon love, and that is why He created the world of reciprocal relationships. This is logically correct. (193-145, 1989.10.3)Cheon Seong Gyeong 1514 Rev. Sun Myung Moon
The most important problem facing society today is family breakdown. This is directly related to the misuse of love and sex. Let’s look at some of the statistics for how the family is breaking down.
According to the Census Bureau, since 1968 the number of children living with two parents has declined from 85 % to 70%, but the definition of a family was changed in 2007 to be two parents living together, whether they are married or not, which is not accurate.
Furthermore, in families were two unmarried parents are living together, we see that those with young children ages one to five comprise 50 percent of that category. But those with children 12 to 17 comprise only 18 percent. Why? These families are unstable and tend to break up. For married parents, as you would expect, the number of children living with both parents is steady across age groups.
The Pew Research Center study shows that in 1960, children lived with two parents in their first marriage 76% of the time, but only 46% of the time in 2014. Children living with remarried parents held steady over the years at about 15 percent. In summary,
90 percent of children lived with married parents in 1960, vs. 61 percent in 2014, a
29 percent drop. Seven percent of couples were cohabiting in 2014. Single parents increased from 9 percent to 26 percent. In 2014, one in 20 children did not live with either parent.
You are twice as likely to get divorced if you have children before marriage.
What should be done about family breakdown?
From a God-centered viewpoint; you cannot enter heaven without a family.
You need not just marriage but Blessed marriage.
You need children to enter heaven. You need all the aspects of love, parental, brother-sister, conjugal and filial. You cannot just enter heaven as a happy couple, only.
All the problems of society are linked to the decline of the family. If children are not living with their married parents, all kinds of problems occur. Children living with a mother and her boyfriend are much more likely to be sexually abused. Even in high crime inner-city neighborhoods, those living with their married parents are much less likely to be involved in crime or delinquency.
What about our economy. There is a worker shortage. Why? One reason is that fertility is declining. In the 60’s and 70’s, 40 percent of women had four children. Now it is reversed. Forty percent of women only have two children.
What about the uncivility of society. Many are mad or “pissed-off”. Why? A lot of it has to do with anger over not having a father, for both men and women. This may not be acknowledged, but it is there, none the less.
What can be done about the problem of family breakdown?
First, regardless of whether you grew up with both parents or not, and whether you practiced sexual abstinence before marriage or not, you can decide for your future or current children that you would like to make a stable environment for them.
What will you tell your future or current children? Would you not like them to wait until marriage for sexual activity? We need to break the generational cycle of out of wedlock birth. Youth are happy to learn the message of pre-marital abstinence. It is a no-brainer to teach this to our youth, especially in local schools. See urbanlifetraining.org. We have trainings quarterly.
Secondly, practice and teach Blessed marriage, the marriage Blessing instituted by Rev. Sun Myung Moon and his wife, as True Parents. We can change our lineage from the devil (John 8:44) to God’s lineage. We can change our marriage from being outside the Garden of Eden to being in the state before the Fall of Man. See Blessed Marriage here.
Fourth, you need to share this good news with others. Rev. Moon taught us the ministry of Home Church. You minister to 360 homes in your neighborhood. It is not just evangelizing, asking them if they have accepted Jesus or True Parents, Rev. and Mrs. Moon. It is serving your neighbors in practical ways. Know your neighbors, love your neighbors and help your neighbors.
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Letter to the Editor submitted to the Spirit of Jefferson and printed on September 15th, 2021 (this original version was slightly edited).
Last week, Edward Belmonte Jr., a health teacher at Jefferson High School was arrested after allegedly having sex multiple times, including inside a school closet, with a 17 year old student.
Notably, Belmonte testified that abstinence-centered education does not work and should not be taught at the January 11th Jefferson County Board of Education Meeting. He was responding to my comments about the importance of abstinence-centered health education.
What kind of person does not want school age youth to abstain from sex before marriage? We can see clearly in this case that it is a person who wants to have sex with underage children!
This is not the first time this has happened in Jefferson County and at Jefferson High School. In 2016, Joel Michael Ziler, a music teacher and choir director was convicted of having sexual relations with two female students. Other sexually related incidents where teachers where fired and their licenses were revoked occurred in Jefferson County in 2005, 2009, 2018 and 2019. Belmonte also is a graduate of Jefferson High School.
In my testimony at the January 11th Board of Education meeting, I shared:
“SIECUS promotes so called comprehensive sex education. That means that school age youth are not encouraged to abstain from sexual activity. Sexual exploration is seen as being healthy, as long as contraceptives are used.
This contrasts with abstinence-centered sexual health education, which is the real comprehensive sexual health education. This is because, sexual abstinence is stated as the expected standard for school age youth, in line with Federal Title V standards. Virtually 100% of parents agree with this approach.”
Urban Life Training, the nonprofit organization that my wife Stacey and I founded in 2003, has helped over 3000 students along the path to success by teaching the benefits of sexual abstinence before marriage. We would like to offer this program to all middle and high schools in Jefferson County that want it, free of charge to the schools.
But to do this we need your help. Both curriculum presenters and Teen Choice Service Club leaders are needed, as well as financial support to fund the program.
Letter to the Editor printed in the Spirit of Jefferson on June 23rd, 2021
This letter is to follow up on my testimony at the Jefferson County Board of Education meeting on June 14th, 2021.
While sharing two facts on the importance of family structure to the success of children, Board Chair Ms. Skinner interrupted, as noted below:
My comments: “Let’s not forget that intact family structure and parental support, not race, is the most important factor in student success. The Jefferson County Board of Education would be well advised to adopt policies that recognize this fact. Those youth who graduate from high school, get a full time job and don’t have children before marriage and before age 21 are ten times less likely to live in poverty [Ms. Skinner interjects: “Mr. Urban, please let’s just stick to the topic here and not wander off ”, I reply “That is related, I’m talking about student success. They‘re 10 times less likely to grow up in poverty. That’s an important thing for student success and well-being, emotionally”]. Children living with their mother and her boyfriend are six times more likely to be physically, emotionally, or educationally neglected [Ms. Skinner interjects “Mr. Urban you’ve really gone off topic and your time is actually up]. At this point my virtual meeting connection was disconnected while I was still speaking.
Two take-aways from the above give and take with Ms. Skinner.
- The Board of Education should hear citizens’ comments and not censor them.
- We need to turn the conversation toward which family structures promote student and youth well-being. Father Facts, 5th Edition gives the following data:
Using data drawn from the 1990 test results of 18,000 10th graders who took the Louisiana Graduation Exit Examination, it was found that the percentage of students from single-parent families in schools had a strong negative relation to standardized test scores, and the prevalence of students from single-parent families in schools was a better predictor of academic outcomes that the racial composition of schools.
We need to take a long-term, generational view. Regardless of current family structure, what would you, as a parent, recommend for your children? The overwhelming majority of parents will want their children to abstain from sex before marriage. And as just stated, this is directly linked to student well-being. Therefore, schools should adopt curricula and programs that help youth fulfill the success formula mentioned above; finish high school, get a full time job and don’t have children before marriage and before age 21.
The Jefferson County WV School Board approved a summer program called Black Math Genius. Does this program have elements of Critical Race Theory in It? Richard and guest, parent Chris Keiter discuss this crucial topic.